So let’s get straight to the point - Love is a bitch, but it is the most rewarding experiences you can ever have. I am not a relationship expert by any means, but I was an expert at being single. I was single for many years wishing and hoping for the opportunity to love and be loved.
2020 started out with many changes in my life, including a new business opportunity, my acting career was taking off, and I met the man I wanted to love. While I hit the ground running, Covid came and interrupted all of my plans, forced me to stay home and I could no longer run away from myself. Instead I found myself learning to really love.
Love is patient, love is kind.
Love does not envy,
is not boastful, is not conceited,
does not act improperly,
is not selfish, is not provoked,
and does not keep a record of wrongs.
Love finds no joy in unrighteousness
but rejoices in the truth.
It bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things, endures all things.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Holman Christian Standard Bible
These words are ever familiar to me, being raised in a devout Christian home in Texas. As someone who has studied love in the scriptures for many years, learning to putting them into practice has been the greatest lesson so far. If I could summarize these words into one simple phrase I would say that love is humbling.
In my experience, you cannot begin to love yourself or someone else unless you are willing to look at your own flaws. This process is gut wrenching, filled with extreme emotions, and many beautiful moments.
Nowadays it is encouraged to cancel someone right away when you see a flaw in someone, writing them off as toxic too quickly. Please understand, It is important to establish your boundaries in what you are willing to deal with and how long you are willing to invest in the other person. Hold these convictions close to your heart and use them as a guide to preserve your heart, while also creating a safe space for growth in the relationship.
Love between two humans is very human, after all. Love is made perfect when it is genuine, it becomes genuine when you humbly accept each other’s humanity. So if you find yourself learning to really love, take a breath, humbly accept the beautiful and ugly, the exciting moments and the boring ones, the easy and the hard times. Love freely, love unconditionally, love without fear. I promise you, the right one will want to learn to love with you, and it will be the best feeling in the world.
Perfect Love is the antidote to fear.
- Gabriella Rafiele
Starlight Team Member/ Owner